Another young hopeful prepares for their huge moment in front of the judges … will they get to Hollywood?
Of course the scene is set with their touching interviews ..this is what they have always dreamt of and if this doesn’t come through for them, their life will be over!
The big performance happens and then they wait for the judges verdict… The scene is set as the music plays in the background to heighten the drama and tension of this make or break moment.
This is American Idol…one by one, Randy Jackson, Jennifer Lopez and Steven Tyler give their verdicts.
Expecting to hear a simple “yes” or “no” as we have come to expect from these shows I am surprised to hear Steven Tyler, the Aerosmith legend say “not yet” to the young hopeful.
“Not yet” …I hadn’t heard that language used before on the show and it struck me that it was a really great way of rejecting the young singer in a positive manner, dealing them that dreaded news but in a way that left them feeling encouraged and that the world hadn’t ended.
I guess in the show someone had reflected on the whole Yes/No scenario and decided that there was an option and some sense of responsibility around the cold delivery of rejection – why not do it differently so that it might actually leave people feel ok about themselves and willing to possibly try again next time?
With young vulnerable people there is a particular responsibility to show encouragement even in a negative situation.
In business we all face rejection and at times we also have to do the rejecting …
“I’m not interested”
“No, it’s not for me”
“Thank you for all your efforts but unfortunately not at this time”
“Sorry, it’s not exactly what we are looking for”
“Unfortunately our budget won’t stretch that far”
– there are so many ways to say no and while it is always tough hearing it ,”not yet” or some sign of appreciation or encouragement always softens the blow.
Worse than “no” has to be the Nothing ..
He spoke about a recent situation where he had put a fortune of work into a pitch, mocked up sample footage, presented and received encouraging feedback and then hears “nothing” back from the prospect.
He waits, he emails, he texts, he calls and despite his considerable efforts ….nothing. Then you tread a line between being pushy and just wanting some feedback. It drives him nuts, not receiving any feedback. As he says himself, he would prefer to get a clearcut “no” rather than the dreaded “nothing” treatment.
This experience bothered him so he came to me looking for some inspiration or advice … “Brendan, welcome to my world!“.
This happens in business and unfortunately it is just something that you have to live with as some people are either being rude or they just have a huge problem with saying “no”.
Is “No” better than nothing ?